May 23, 2016

Weekly Hopes {43}

Hope this weeks starts wonderfully for you! I can't believe May is almost over. I mean, how on earth is this even possible? I know I say this every month but time needs to slow down. I feel I don't get accomplished anything at all and all I see is a new month starting and then a new year welcoming us as well. Time flies that fast!

For this week I have a few things I am hoping for, or looking forward let's get started so we can work on Monday and the rest of this week:

1 - Donate my stash of filled paper bags full of clothes
2 - Give the fur ladies a bath {smelly cat, smelly cat, what are they feeding you?...}
3 - Renew my Driver's's a must {didn't do it last week}.
4 - Costco run! 
5 - Date Night {I hope because well, it's needed}
6 - Do one thing I normally wouldn't do
7 - Reach out more to others
8 - Finish a book
9 - Sell a few books back for extra $$
10 - Plan a few events/trips for this year

I know most weeks I get about 60% accomplished of what I'm listing and that is fine. I do get weeks when everything gets crossed off which feels amazing. I hope this week I get to do most. DMV is a must, because without a proper license I can't drive and get around. The ladies need a bath because well, spring cleaning means clean cats, too. And I really want to push myself out of my comfort zone. I want to do something I normally wouldn't do. I'm not talking about getting a tattoo or a super piercing but something else...something that will make me feel accomplished and fulfilled. I shall see if I find that something this week.

What are you looking forward to this week? Any Weekly Hopes for you?


May 20, 2016

5 Ways to Stay Sane {Work & Study}

When you are in a relationship, especially early on, everything feels great, glorious and just beyond anything you had imagined. Life couldn't be better. When that relationship intensifies by you living together under one roof you get to experience a different kind of relationship. You get to enjoy {or not} each other's daily moves, habits, and what not. Both sides need to adjust and accept new rules, new ways to live life. No need to change everything but there will be adjustments and there will hardship {not too much I hope}.

When your other half returns to school, then, well then life changes a bit more. You'd think, hey yes, I remember going to college, I remember that lame homework, those awful papers and assignments and the projects no one wanted to work on. It'll be a breeze. Yes, I remember all that.

I do, too. I still do, and I see it every day. *insert crazy face here*

Don't get me wrong I love that B is in school. It shows dedication and determination. He wants to get his goals accomplished and he wants them accomplished soon. This not only requires us to spend more on life than normal {hello, schoolbooks that cost $120 each and that is the used book price, not to mention the parking permits}, but it also requires us to find a balance in between school, home assignments, work and marriage. I'm kind of happy we don't have friends here who want to hang out often. If we did I'd welcome them of course, but that would add a bit to the already full load. So how we {heck, I} stay sane?! Here's 5 things I do to stay sane while my other half works and studies his butt off at the same time.

1. Let him do his thing
Literally. My way to study and cram stuff in is in no his way. I need a quiet, or maybe a semi-quiet, environment. I can't have music blasting or chatter next or around me. I also can't have distractions around me. My laptop stays shut off {unless needed to study and type homework up}. My phone is on silent and far far away from me. His way? It's all over the place. Laptop open, YouTube open {I am not joking}, music blasting and what not. He studies for about 15 minutes and then takes an hour break or more. I do it the opposite around.
So, I am forcing myself to let him do his thing. It has clearly worked for him in the past and until now so why make him change a thing. I also try to stay far away from him because, I so want to turn off the TV, radio and Internet so badly every time I see him "study".

2. Find something that occupies you, and you only
I read, he doesn't. So while he is doing his thing at night or whenever I am around I grab a book and start reading it in the bedroom. Or, I catch up on my TV shows. It's little things like that. It's things I only do. Or, if I feel I need to splurge...I go shopping by myself but we all know how this usually ends. Find something that you can do by yourself and only yourself. It definitely helps not to be around hearing him curse at the assignments or life.

3. Schedule, schedule, schedule
While I was studying I had my planner, and I wrote down when I had midterms, assignments due, and finals. I also wrote down when I needed to return certain items, turn something in, had a date, and needed to meet up with my monthly book club. I scheduled it and I made sure I wouldn't miss any thing. Well, B is a guy. He doesn't schedule well. He doesn't write down important things. It's a guy thing. So, it is important to schedule for your other half so you stay sane while your other half is trying to survive under so much school pressure as well. Half the time he didn't remember he had an exam in a week. I knew it though and reminded him. So yes, schedule schedule schedule...for you, for your partner, and yes, even for the two of you. No one has time to forget anything or miss a special date or meeting.

4. Schedule Time Out
This may sound like part of #3 and it may as well be but it is crucial to schedule a time out day. This day doesn't have to be a day where a date occurs or you go hiking together {that's a date, too, no?!}. It's a day no one does a school or work related thing. Sleep in, don't touch the course load, don't even check any social media {and if you have to, have scheduled times for that like 9-10am and 5-6pm}, don't do chores...just be you and only you. Watch a movie together, explore the city, or yes, go on a date for all I care...just don't do a thing about school or work or both. Take that time to be with your partner. It's called time out from the work/school take that day as an opportunity to find a way back to your pre-school/work days. And turn your darn cellphone off!!! I schedule such a day {yes, see, I do it} about every two weeks. It's not easy but it is oh so worth it.

5. Picture the Outcome
Yes, picture the outcome. Let's be honest here, there are times when I want to tear every single book and notebook of his apart. I'm done with school and seeing him being exhausted and in a way unhappy makes me sad and mad. It's frustrating to work and go to school. It's frustrating to be in school at times. He wants to be done. I get it. I can't help him much with the load. I don't make him do a ton around the house unless really necessary. I want him to focus on his studies. I have to remind him of the outcome almost every day. There are times he wants to quit. Badly. I have to sit down and make him picture the outcome. Once he pictures it he knows he is on the right track towards something awesome. It's hard to do this when you're exhausted and fed up, so trust me when I say that we have to picture the future almost daily these days. Yet, it is doable. And it will be so beneficial!!

These 5 ways are not the only ways to stay sane while your other half works or/and studies. There's is a ton more, yet, these five steps have helped us stay relatively sane. Granted, and I'd be lying if I didn't admit it, there are moments all these steps fail. We are only human. Yet, I make an effort to help out and be as understanding and supporting as I can be. There is only so much I can do at times. I can't write a paper for him, and I can't help with projects but I can help with printing out things, letting him do his thing while I cook or clean. It's the little things that count. And when I'm all fed up I grab a book, pour me a glass of red wine and head into the bedroom while I get lost in the written word. That always sounds like a fabulous time out for me. ;)

It's definitely not easy to do both, work and school. I see the future and I know he does too but we all know, sometimes the future looks too far away and even off the wishful, easy path. Oftentimes we have to take the rougher, more difficult way to get to where we want to be. He's chosen the middle route and I am so hoping this won't kick him or me in the butt one day.

We work hard to get to where we want to end up and I have to tell him every day how much I appreciate his hard work, his dedication and determination. He's usually not into praise like that but he certainly needs to hear this; more now than before. He actually told me he needed to hear these words so I am making this effort to let him know how I feel about his hard work as often as I can. We have had our differences and as I mentioned, sometimes these five steps fail. Again, we are only human. We are not perfect. Yet, that imperfection makes life beautiful and quite worth the struggle.

Any school/work stories out there that you'd like to share? Are you still {or again} in school trying to better yourself? Whatever you do I hope you are doing a great job, and keeping yourself and your family as sane and happy as even possible.


May 18, 2016

Humble and Kind

I'm not a huge fan of country music I have to admit. However, I listen to it because well, it's easy to listen to and as boring as it can be there are a few pretty darn good melodies and lyrics. B likes it a lot. It calms him down while driving. I have to admit it's better than faced paced anything nowadays that doesn't make any sense or has no lyrics or meaning whatsoever. Anyways, so on my quest to happiness, to a happier me and a happier life and all I was told to sing along to songs and/or dance. Well, in a car it's a bit difficult to dance but I move along {when on the passenger seat of course}. Yet, to sing, that I can do. It took me a while to get back to my normal self, to my funky singing along self. I caught myself a few times singing along and then had to smile. 

A while back I heard Tim McGraw's song Humble and Kind...and man, that song speaks truth on so many levels it's amazing. It's one of those songs I love because of its message, and yes it's mellow melody that is quite catchy. Its message though...that I love. And guess what? I always turn up the volume and I always sing along when this song comes up.

Hold the door, say please, say thank you
Don't steal, don't cheat, and don't lie
I know you got mountains to climb but
Always stay humble and kind
When the dreams you're dreamin' come to you
When the work you put in is realized
Let yourself feel the pride but
Always stay humble and kind

That's just one part of the song but this alone sends the perfect message. There's hardly people today, my age, who say thank you or please let alone both. It's so sad. I want my children to grow up knowing what manners are, and how to be polite in this world today. You can teach a child to say all this but it takes more than just that. Your teenager, your adult child needs to remember what was taught back in the day and implement this on a daily basis. I even hold doors for others because, well, that is what I want others to do, too. I set an example. It's baby steps but in the end those steps may finally be seen and felt and hopefully repeated by others. 

With all that in mind...hope you're day today is going well. I'm off making this very hot day a happy one. I will be holding doors and saying thank you's and what not. I will set an example today!


May 16, 2016

Weekly Hopes {42}

Guys, I am back. I believe I am back now on a regular basis. I know I know, I keep saying this and then, baaaammmmm, I vanish for a whole week. One year ago I was in a completely different state of mind. My season last year was a harsh one. Reality kicked in. Reality of course is still kicking my butt but I am handling it all as gracefully as even possible. With that out in the open {again}, I had to take some time to myself and decompress and let May and its dull days be dull and sit back. I focused on work and life rather than on this lovely blog of mine. I truly missed spending time reading and commenting {which, yes, I am going to catch up on with}. I'm excited to announce I believe and feel to be out of that initial slump, that dragging anxiety, that agony and "I don't care" phase. Here's hoping!

So, without further excuses why I wasn't fully blogging and being around here's my weekly hope list for this week:

1 - Blog more often {at least three times: M, W, F}
2 - Be more present on social media platforms 
3 - Apply again
4 - Cheer my man on for all his finals {two more to go}
5 - Get rid of cleaning supplies we no longer use {and it's a lot of bottles my dear readers}
6 - Clean out the medicine cabinet
7 - Cook all week with what we have in our pantry, fridge and freezer
8 - Study at least two hours per day {gives me enough time to do other things and not go overboard}
9 - Visit DMV *insert crying face here*
10 - Morning walks before the heat knocks on our doors again

This week is going to be a hot one. We have temps in the high 90s approaching again and it won't be fun. So early morning walks are a must, all heavy duty movements must be accomplished before 10am. Everything else can be done inside or in the evening. I'm mostly looking forward to B being done with his finals, and me renewing my DL at our awesome DMV {no joke, it's a gorgeous one!!}. Other than that, I want to make our home as clutter free as even possible. I already started throwing away a few thing but I'm going to throw out more. Yes, throw out. I am all for donations but I can't donate expired meds and what not. Gone, gone, gone!!!

What are you looking forward to accomplishing this week?!

May 11, 2016

Currently {8}

Thinking about: How to save money. It's an ongoing thing. With B still in school we have to calculate parking permits, books, material, gas, and groceries. We save by me not attending any gym or class, by not going to therapy anymore {yay}, by only going twice a month to my chiropractor {instead of every week or every other day...I have come a long way!!}, and by us cutting back a ton on fun. We still have cable which makes me scream every month because its bill is ridiculous...BUT we don't go to the movie theater and we don't eat out often {maybe once a month if at all}. I am still thinking about canceling our cable tv but B is against it as we watch free movies thanks to OnDemand. I have been researching and I am convinced we could save a ton canceling it. Granted, I love my morning and evening news but everything in between I am sure I can find somewhere in all honesty, canceling our cable would be awesome. I think. HELP.

****If you have ideas on this particular thing please let me know!! Please!!! 

Listening: Turkish music. Lately I have been more into my roots and all. It's an on/off thing for me. There are moments I can't stand anything related to my roots and then, bam, I am all over it. All day, every day! Also, despite the music I am also listening to my neighbors' sounds. We have three neighbors, and two of them are beyond ridiculous. One doesn't know how to close a door properly and how to get rid of trash, and one feels it is okay to leave their two dogs barking all. day. long. A dog barks, fine. I have lived with dogs. I love dogs. BUT, when it gets excessively loud and annoying...I am over it and I am reporting the "nice" neighbors once again. Oh, not to mention the screaming and yelling. What on earth is wrong with people?! Get along!

Watching: End of Season Finales and the News. Gotta know what is going on in the world and locally. This is important to me!

Reading: Loving My Actual Life by Alexandra Kuykendall. The book I read last made me choose this book. Well, Amazon told me it may be a great one so I read more about the book and realized it may not bee too bad, and here I am reading it. Just knowing that I am reading again makes me happy because this shows me that I am healing more and more. 

Loving: Snuggle time with my fur babies, but besides the obvious cuteness factor I am also loving warmer weather, great hair days, and the fact that I can cook more "cooler dishes" like pasta salad, rice salad, quinoa salads, and Mediterranean dishes I miss a ton. Just realized there's a theme in my spring cooking here. ;) 
Planning: What to do on my birthday. With B in school, us working, and everything a bit crazy busy we currently have no plans. This drives me insane. HELP! Also, B's best friend is moving up north this summer so that will be awesome. He may even move very close to us {about an hour away} so if that happens I am planning a few meetings, get togethers and what not. Excited about that and really hoping he will move to that closer place because, well, a familiar awesome face is always welcome.

What are you currently up to?!
Enjoying May and the hopefully warmer temps?!



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