April 29, 2016

Kitchen Item Lust

Summer is around the corner, there's no denying this. Temperatures are slowly rising, flowers are blooming, we see more produce, more flies, more ants, too, lighter clothing material, and more recipes that allow us to dream of salads and BBQ dinners in the backyard. What is not to love? Right? So here I am looking around my kitchen realizing I needed new bowls {ours have clearly seen better days}, a few new accessories to make this year's summer bright and fun, and a new cutting board. So I went online shopping...online window shopping so far and here's what I found:

Summer kitchen item lust

How cute is this cutting board!!?! Showing my state pride with this beauty. You can find it at JCPenney's and even BedBath&Beyond. Summer always consists of lots of cool drinks. I make my own lavender lemonade and lemon water so a new pitcher is also needed. Turquoise is such a perfect summer color {also available in different colors} so I am slightly drooling here. Our plates are still pretty okay so I may not upgrade the collection but I could always use new ones that go with a new summer pitcher. I have been looking for a tray to add to our home and well, I might have just found it. I don't shop seasonally but sometimes you got to add a bit of color to your every day life and kitchen. Plus, with summer almost here why not start now and not when it is too late {or sold out}.

I don't want to spend a ton on new items. Items are clearly just items and can always be replaced. Yet, over the past few months I realized that waiting for the right time or moment to purchase something new is silly. That moment may never come so why wait? Go get yourself that cutting board showing off some state pride, or new bowls because well, you know you need and want it all. Plus, again, you'll regret it later I am sure.

My kitchen item lust list would go on but I can only afford so much while still staying sane. I clearly don't want to go overboard and replace it all because, well, I don't have the money and frankly not even the space for it. Ha! 

Are you like me lusting over new kitchen utensils or plates, or what not?! If so, what is it? Let me know.

Have an amazing day and weekend ahead of you. I promise I'll stay away from all the shopping. ;-)


April 27, 2016

5 Night Routines for a Healthy Relationship

There are tons of books out there talking about how to fix a relationship, how to live better, how to behave better, how to act, and how not to act. Honestly, I never touched one. I believe in the written word and I am sure that all these books help in some way and show a way to improve or enjoy a happier relationship especially when the relationship is not going so well. There is a book for pretty much anything and everything. What inspires me though is to find out how to make the already happy and well functioning relationship work even better. Why look for help or suggestions when something is crumbling, about to shatter into millions of pieces? You can call it prevention...I call it inspiration. Bring the better you out and live it so it is felt and shown in any relationship. Here are my five tips to add to your night routine when in a relationship...

  1. Never ever go to bed angry or mad. Not worth it. It will kill your sleep. Seriously, think about it. When you go to bed angry you are stressed and stress doesn't necessarily lead to sleep. You won't be able to fall asleep as fast or rest as much as you would like to. You may sleep but how peaceful will that sleep be when you are angry at your partner? You wake up groggy and your day is off to a bad start.
  2. Prepare for the next day. Now this sounds like it doesn't belong here but look at it this way...when you prepare for the next day you not only lay out clothes, shoes and get your bag{s} ready, you also prepare for the future. You look ahead. You plan. You look forward to the next day {or not, depending on what you're up to}. Yet, the more you prepare for the next day the easier your morning will be...and the smoother your night's rest will feel as well.
  3. Put all electronics away {phones, tablets, laptops}. It's a distraction. If you really want to check with social media, emails or games before you go to bed schedule a specific time for it. Let's say you go to bed at 10.30, make 9.30 to 9.45 the time to check for all of that and then make those bad boys go away! No need to lay in bed next to your partner and not engaging with your partner, which brings me to the next tip:
  4. Connect. Talk, play games, massage, tickle, be intimate in any kind of form you would like. Being intimate does not mean you have to have sex, remember that. Connect with your partner. We talk a lot in bed. We go over the day, what went right what went wrong. What the next day looks like or the next week.  All that while he is massaging that knot on my muscle away. This gives us a chance to re-connect, to get everything out of the way and clear our heads so we don't go to bed angry {see tip #1}.
  5. Always kiss good-night and say good-night. It's that simple. We made a rule that we would always do this no matter what. It makes sense and brings harmony. It's also a nice way to end any day and know that you are not alone and loved. It is part of my fourth tip, but brings this nightly routine to an end. 
These are my night routines for my healthy relationship with my man. There are many more tips out there on what to do before you go to bed. Yes, shower, brush teeth, remove make-up, stretch, read, play with pets, put lotion on, or what not. All those are important, too. Today I wanted to solely focus on five simple yet effective ways to end a day and get a hopefully good night's rest. You may think, wait a minute...what if you have children? What is that nightly routine going to look like then because it is quite likely to happen that both sides will be exhausted and won't have time for a good-night kiss...

...well, then my lovely readers...then I don't know. Is a kiss really that hard to manage?


April 25, 2016

Weekly Hopes {39}

Another day, another week and another Weekly Hopes from yours truly...so let's jump right to it because I can't wait to tell you what I am hoping for this week...plus it's early and I don't want to miss my favorite part of the day...working out my legs and butt! Yes!!!

This week my Weekly Hopes consists of...

1. Warmer weather
2. Baking
3. Seeing an old friend from Southern California {she's here for business but hey I get to see her}
4. Dinner downtown somewhere
5. Butt kicking workouts
6. Catching up on emails, blogs, and questions
7. Happiness and Distractions
8. Hope
9. Hugs and determination
10. Laughter, lots of laughter

These hopes may be simple but sometimes simple hopes are crucial for survival. One year ago I was a mess. This doesn't mean I am no mess at the moment but I am more me. I can breathe, I can dream, and I can hope. One year ago I tried to strongly hold onto hope for about two weeks. I tried to find power and strength and faith. Nothing worked. Nothing helped. So, this week and next I am trying to focus on what is now and not what once was. I was a mess last year this time around but this year I want to be hopeful, happy, smiling, and ready to be me. Wish me luck!!


April 22, 2016

Happy Friday - Family Edition

Most Fridays I participate by linking up with Krysten, Lindsay and Charlotte for their 10 Things that Made me Happy this Week series. Love this idea. This week I was debating whether or not to participate. Not because I had nothing "happy" to report but because I felt I didn't have the time to share it with you. Well, I decided to stay home today and sleep in...I didn't sleep in because at five in the morning we were woken up by loud and screaming neighbors. Crazy world. So my happiness loving self didn't want to blog but because I believe blogging/writing helps improve any bad mood I decided to open my laptop and start writing...and here I am, sharing with you what made me happy...shall we begin?

1. Mimosas
2. Board Games
3. Rain
4. A glass cake plate I received from my cousin in Istanbul - I am in love!

5. Seeing the Sheriff arrive at my neighbors {yes I'm mean but it made my happy...finally!}
6. Crying
7. StitchFix 
8. Kicking my allergies in the butt with natural remedies
9. Lindsay and her uplifting words, she knows when to send an email at the right time. Love ya!
10. Massage

It's been an interesting week. When I needed it most I received the above plate at the right time. I had been crying all day, feeling sad, feeling hurt, feeling pain and having a hard time breathing in general. I felt awful. I decided to check the mail and found out I had a package from my cousin waiting for me. She told me she sent me something but didn't elaborate on it. Well, once it arrived my heart and mind brightened and I felt more relaxed. When you feel lonely and feel like you don't have friends and especially family {blood related family that is} near you everything hurts. These next two weeks will be challenging but manageable. Receiving this plate showed me I am still loved and linked to my family abroad. Receiving this plate gave me hope, and it gave me courage. I felt instantly loved. Needless to say I cried for another hour knowing I am loved and missed and appreciated. Mushy I know but so worth mentioning because hey, I am only human and life happens. 

So yes, with that...my week has been great. Who would complain when one can list mimosas, a massage, a StitchFix delivery and a precious glass plate to their happy list? Yup, no one should complain about that at all. 

Come and join the fun and link up!! You won't regret it.
Happy Friday everyone! Have a fantastic day and weekend ahead of you.


April 20, 2016

Time Heals All Wounds - QOTD #29

“It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.” 
Rose Kennedy


I have come across this very quote a few days ago and it hit home. Hard. I so agree with this quote because although we want to believe that time heals all wounds it doesn't. It may make it easier but it may not make those wounds go away. Ever. They stay with us whether we like it or not. They shape us and make us either stronger, more fragile, determined, confused or bitter. I am a mix of all of this. My wounds are still open, and it hurts to know that soon it will hit a one year mark. Time sure flies but it doesn't heal those wounds, it just lessens the pain. 

Yesterday I started experiencing anxiety attacks again and they aren't pretty. It's a mix of allergy related anxiety attacks as well. Thanks pollen, grass and trees...thank you. Well, maybe I should thank me for all of that because I caused it. But that story is for another time. I don't know what caused my anxiety attacks yesterday but man I felt awful. There were moments I felt great and normal and I kept wondering why I felt normal that moment. Was it that I didn't think of my mom? What is that I didn't think of the day? That I didn't think of what may come after that one year mark? Probably. I don't know. I don't think about the day, officially. I'm sure subconsciously I am. I am sure my mind dreams about it but won't let me see those dreams. I am not stupid. I know the day will come and I know it will bring back memories and sadness. I was told to get distracted that day. I am hoping we will find a way to do so. It's so very real and so very weird. And the funniest thing about it all is that my anxiety leaves me once I start crying. It's like all the sorrow, all the heavy stuff I carry with me and all the worries I have leave me for however long I cry. It feels great and yet it feels awful because I am an ugly cry baby. My face swells, it gets red and I look like I swallowed a sour melon that is too huge to even get eaten. 

So, long story short...I am a mess and time heals NOT all wounds. I am sad yet happy. I am a mess, really. Every day I learn my lessons, I cherish each moment and hope mom sees how I am doing. Well, I hope she won't see it all because some of it isn't pretty and I am not proud of it but hey, it's life and I needed time off to reflect on myself, my life, my future, my health and heck, I am proud to say I am ready to conquer the world again. I must, whether or not I am happy. I simply must.

I hope this finds you happier than I am. If you're experiencing similar feelings consider yourself hugged because hugs help. Hugs are needed and a true blessing, no matter who gives them. Remember that. 



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